Many mothers believe that their child has anxiety about being separated from their parent or parents. It is normal for children of 8-10 months to be visibly concerned about leaving parents or carers. Current research tells us that 90% of 10-month-old infants will become upset if a stranger approaches them in an unfamiliar room. Only 50% will become upset if the child is given time (10 minutes) to become familiar with the room. This suggests that, in new situations, infants cope better if they come across new things gradually.
Small children cope better when adults take time to allow the child to get to know them first. Seating a child of a few months on mum or dad's knee, facing a new adult and allowing the child to observe the interaction between the adults first, can help the child become more confident in the new adult and then interaction between the other adult and child is more acceptable. The infant will still look for mum or dad's reaction to their interaction with the visitor and will probably only accept a short interval of direct contact without seeking a return to mum or dad. This is entirely normal.
Separation Anxiety peaks at between 14-18 months and decreases through childhood. Children need to socialise and they need the security of knowing that their parents are there for them. Offering a series of short separations over time will help a child cope with being away from mum and dad.
Small children cope better when adults take time to allow the child to get to know them first. Seating a child of a few months on mum or dad's knee, facing a new adult and allowing the child to observe the interaction between the adults first, can help the child become more confident in the new adult and then interaction between the other adult and child is more acceptable. The infant will still look for mum or dad's reaction to their interaction with the visitor and will probably only accept a short interval of direct contact without seeking a return to mum or dad. This is entirely normal.
Separation Anxiety peaks at between 14-18 months and decreases through childhood. Children need to socialise and they need the security of knowing that their parents are there for them. Offering a series of short separations over time will help a child cope with being away from mum and dad.
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