Sunday 8 January 2012

Ten things you can do to help your child to play.

Without play children have difficulties forming healthy relationships, they won't learn to develop and function in the world without positive play experiences. Active children are happy children, they are better adjusted, more co-operative with their peers and more popular because of it.

Parents who actively encourage play and communicate with their children provide excellent opportunities for speech and language development, information sharing and use of imagination. Here are ten ways you can help your child to develop through play. This is not an exhaustive list, merely a starter for parents who are uncertain how to encourage their child to become involved in their environment.

1) Allow yourself time to play with your child. We all lead busy lives, so we need to recognise the importance of playing with our children.

2) Have a couple of "treasure boxes" for children to explore. Natural materials, pine cones, leaves,shells,a short chain, a wooden spoon, keys, simple household objects can allow exploration of colour and texture and the developing of hand eye co-ordination. A dressing up box for toddlers, with a variety of old clothes of different materials are good starting boxes.

3) Communicate effectively by using facial expressions, eye contact and a positive tone of voice.

4) Use music to encourage your child to dance and to move more in their play.

5) Encourage messy play using jelly, spaghetti, Playdoh and sand.

6) Provide opportunity for water play with different containers, hose pipes and moulds.

7) Even when the weather is inclement, pull on warm waterproof clothing and get out to the park or beach. 

8) Read or look through books with your child and encourage them to tell a story or extend the story that they are familiar with.

9) Observe your child playing and  comment appropriately, this will help them develop vocabulary.

10) Allow your inner child to have some fun too!

Tuesday 3 January 2012

Monsters in the bedroom?

It can be difficult for young children to differentiate between real life and imagination. Characters like Kermit and Big Bird are very real to pre school children. As a child's imagination develops, more imaginary characters can become real. When these characters are more threatening it can be worrying, and some children develop a real fear of being alone in their room. Parents need to recognise that although they know the environment is completely safe, in the mind of a child, monsters are very real indeed.

When young children "create" these characters they don't always understand how to banish them. Sometimes, they can become a little like imaginary friends and a relationship can develop which adults may find perplexing. If the child can talk about the character they "see" , and if the parent accepts this as the child's reality then a variety of techniques can be offered to calm, banish or kill the "monster".

Telling a child that there is nothing there and nothing to be afraid of, is logical to adults, but not always acceptable to the child. Some parents use "monster spray" a simple spray of water sprayed in the corners of the room, under the bed or wherever the child thinks the "monster" is lurking, can be effective. Sometimes it is better to create something the child can use by themselves. Praising their bravery in facing the scary helps the child to manage their own fear. There is usually something that your child can tell you that the monster will not like, it may be a torch, monster spray, a dream catcher, a ray gun or a simple "incantation" some noise or rhythm which "monster" doesn't like.

What scares you and how do you manage that fear?
If your child starts to talk about scary things and is reluctant to go to bed because of this it is time to review the media the child is exposed to and to ask more. Treating your child's fears as reasonable, will help your child to have more faith in you as being someone to confide in.  Together you can find a way to conquer these simple fears and help your child to become more confident in his/her abilities as well as your own as a parent