I am often told by parents that their baby does not sleep at all in the daytime. When I ask more questions it usually transpires that the infant does nap, but only under certain circumstances and only for very short periods.
This is can happen for one or more of these reasons;-
1) The parent does not recognise their child's "sleepy signals", so the infant is not given an opportunity to sleep.
2) When the signals are noted it takes too long to get baby settled so the infant goes from tired to second wind, or even to a state of hyper alertness, when there is no way this child will sleep.
3) Over stimulation results in a fretful baby who cannot settle.
4) The need to be held/rocked/patted/stroked or pushed in a stroller in order to achieve sleep.
What are "sleepy signals"?
Babies need sleep when they persistently yawn, rub their faces or pull their ears, close their eyes, or simply start to fuss. When you notice one or more of these sleepy signals you have a small window of opportunity to get your child to nap successfully.
If your child does not settle within 15 to 20 minutes, and they start to wake fully, abandon this nap time and look for the next time these sleepy signs appear.
The other way to deal with this is to observe how long your child is "happily awake". As a newborn the "happily awake" period is usually long enough to be fed and changed, have a cuddle and then they are done. At 3-4 months a child may be happily awake and interacting for anywhere between an hour and an hour and three quarters. At the end of this period they need to rest and sleep. Knowing this can help you to develop a good routine.
What overstimulates a child?
All children need interaction with people. Plonking an infant on front of a television is not positive interaction. The television is fast changing and the short links are too fast for baby to follow. The changing light patterns which seem to attract them, are too speedy to follow, and tend to over excite the eyes and brain.
Lots of interaction with parents and adults, where the child is expected to take in a lot of handling and exchange can also be just too much. One to one is best to begin with. Any sounds which have big variations in volume and pitch can also be just too much, particularly if they continue for a long time.
Your child's favourite toy is a parent. Someone who will offer soothing conversations both verbal and non verbal. Until the infant can get their eyes to work together, (usually at about 2/3 months), it is difficult to focus for long periods. Strong contrasts are appealing because they are easier to see. Black on white, red on white for example.
Until the age of 2 or 3 years, every child needs some daytime sleep. The amount of sleep in the daytime depends on the age and stage of the child. Even a 4 year old who has had a busy day may opt to have a down time during which they will fall asleep for a short period.
To feel refreshed after a short sleep, it is usually necessary to have two complete sleep cycles. Infants will take a minimum of 45 minutes to an hour to achieve this, as they get older an hour and a half is a good nap, a two hour sleep is even better but a 15 to 20 minute sleep is too short to be useful.
There are a probably as many ways to achieve a good nap as there are babies. Each infant has one or more things which will help them to sleep. Once these have been identified they become useful tools in encouraging your little one to settle.
If you would like help to achieve good naps, Contact us ;-info@Dream-Angus.com
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Saturday, 27 April 2013
Tuesday, 20 November 2012
Naps (daytime Sleep)
Children need to have regular daytime naps. When night sleep is disturbed some parents think that removing a nap time will increase night sleep. Unfortunately this is far from the case.
If daytime naps are reduced the child becomes too tired to settle properly at night so night waking may become more frequent.
Daytime sleep opportunities should be offered in a safe room in natural daylight. Ensuring that the sun is not directly shining on the child is helpful but the room should not need to be darkened unless it is very bright. Normal background household noise is helpful because it is reassuring to the child. It reflects that there are people present and the child is not alone. Learning to be comfortable in their own space is a valuable lesson which instills confidence in being able to cope with some time alone.
Depending on the age and stage of the child, they will manage to be "happily awake" for a period of time. At the end of this time children demonstrate sleepy signals. This can be yawning, closing eyes, rubbing face with hands or on the carer if the child is being held. There is a small window of opportunity, from noting these expressions of tiredness, to achieving a successful nap. If you can settle your child within 10/15 minutes of noting these signals the chances are the child will nap successfully.
Working on improving daytime naps is easier on parents who are more awake and more patient during the day, and has a knock on effect of improving the child's night sleep, which is easier for parents too.
By 3 years of age one single 1 hour nap is enough and by 4 years most children no longer require naps. As daytime naps reduce night sleep should be slightly longer and eventually even out at 10-11.5 hours.
If you need help to resolve your child's sleep issues, Contact Dream-Angus.com
Monday, 31 January 2011
Altering a sleep pattern
While most children manage to soothe themselves to sleep, and to sleep through the night without the need for any intervention, there are a number of children who take a long time to learn to do this.
Some children have never learned to put themselves to sleep. They rely on a parent holding them, rocking them, feeding them or simply being with them until they fall asleep. These children come to believe that this is the only way to get to sleep and the parents are often very tired and frustrated. There is no time left to be an individual, to maintain a healthy relationship with a partner. Every evening is spent with the child, just as the day has been. There is no quiet time, no time to exchange comments about the day and often no private time between parents at night. Someone must remain with the child so that the child will sleep.
Altering a child's sleep pattern is possible. It requires an understanding of exactly what has happened to cause the difficulty. A sleep history helps clarify this.
What is the pre bed routine like, how do the parents react to the difficulty and what priorities do the parents have in mind when they want things to change? Sleep diaries illustrate exactly where the difficulties are, and completing these throughout the work to change things can also show what is working, and what is not.
Once the issues have been clearly identified, and the parents priorities decided, it is possible to work using graded techniques to improve the child's sleep. Cry it Out, a method that allows a child to cry with a parent checking at extending intervals, has long been discredited by sleep professionals.
This method does work but it teaches the child that being upset is not going to be met with comfort. The child learns to suppress such emotions and this is not healthy. Cortisol, the stress hormone, floods the body systems of parents and child so neither are happy with the situation. The parents may have been told that this is the way it has to be, but this is not so.
There are other ways to support a child who is afraid, who lacks confidence in their ability to fall asleep or remain asleep without mum or dad being nearby.
Altering a sleep pattern can be really hard work for both parent and child. It requires consistent repetition and demonstration of behaviour and consequenses so that things can and do improve. Most sleep difficulties can be resolved within a few weeks. Perseverance, persistance and calm confidence are atributes which are vital to success.
Once a child has learned to sleep and to remain asleep, their appetite and mood imnprove and parents find things so much easier.
If you would like help to improve your child's sleep, Contact Dream-Angus.com
Some children have never learned to put themselves to sleep. They rely on a parent holding them, rocking them, feeding them or simply being with them until they fall asleep. These children come to believe that this is the only way to get to sleep and the parents are often very tired and frustrated. There is no time left to be an individual, to maintain a healthy relationship with a partner. Every evening is spent with the child, just as the day has been. There is no quiet time, no time to exchange comments about the day and often no private time between parents at night. Someone must remain with the child so that the child will sleep.
Altering a child's sleep pattern is possible. It requires an understanding of exactly what has happened to cause the difficulty. A sleep history helps clarify this.
What is the pre bed routine like, how do the parents react to the difficulty and what priorities do the parents have in mind when they want things to change? Sleep diaries illustrate exactly where the difficulties are, and completing these throughout the work to change things can also show what is working, and what is not.
Once the issues have been clearly identified, and the parents priorities decided, it is possible to work using graded techniques to improve the child's sleep. Cry it Out, a method that allows a child to cry with a parent checking at extending intervals, has long been discredited by sleep professionals.
This method does work but it teaches the child that being upset is not going to be met with comfort. The child learns to suppress such emotions and this is not healthy. Cortisol, the stress hormone, floods the body systems of parents and child so neither are happy with the situation. The parents may have been told that this is the way it has to be, but this is not so.
There are other ways to support a child who is afraid, who lacks confidence in their ability to fall asleep or remain asleep without mum or dad being nearby.
Altering a sleep pattern can be really hard work for both parent and child. It requires consistent repetition and demonstration of behaviour and consequenses so that things can and do improve. Most sleep difficulties can be resolved within a few weeks. Perseverance, persistance and calm confidence are atributes which are vital to success.
Once a child has learned to sleep and to remain asleep, their appetite and mood imnprove and parents find things so much easier.
If you would like help to improve your child's sleep, Contact Dream-Angus.com
Wednesday, 7 October 2009
Daytime napping
When a child is born most of the day is spent in sleep. During sleep the brain is growing and although asleep the child is seldom completely quiet. During the first three months it is not usually difficult to settle an infant. As long as the infant is fed and comfortable sleep will usually follow.
Children who do not settle quickly and easily at this stage often have reflux to some extent, or are victims of "colic". Reflux should be treated, as the issues this causes are often prolonged and difficult to resolve otherwise. Colic usually peaks at 3/4 months and is seldom an issue after that time, with the notable exception of children who have allergies to lactose.
Children need to have regular daytime naps. At first three scheduled naps during daytime until they are about 6/7 months when two naps making a total daytime sleep of 4 hours is the goal. When night sleep is disturbed some parents think that removing a nap time will increase night sleep. Unfortunately this is far from the case. If daytime naps are reduced the child is too tired to settle properly at night so night waking may become more frequent.
By the 6/7 month stage baby should be sleeping through the night for 10 hours and having two naps, the second of which should be completed by 3/3.30pm if the child is on a "wake at 7am bed at 7pm" schedule.
Working on improving daytime naps is easier on parents who are more awake and more patient during the day, and has a knock on effect of improving the child's night sleep, which is easier for parents too.
By 3 years of age one single 1 hour nap is enough and by 4 years most children no longer require naps. As daytime naps reduce night sleep should be slightly longer and eventually even out at 10-11.5 hours.
If you need help to resolve your child's sleep issues, Contact Dream-Angus.com
Children who do not settle quickly and easily at this stage often have reflux to some extent, or are victims of "colic". Reflux should be treated, as the issues this causes are often prolonged and difficult to resolve otherwise. Colic usually peaks at 3/4 months and is seldom an issue after that time, with the notable exception of children who have allergies to lactose.
Children need to have regular daytime naps. At first three scheduled naps during daytime until they are about 6/7 months when two naps making a total daytime sleep of 4 hours is the goal. When night sleep is disturbed some parents think that removing a nap time will increase night sleep. Unfortunately this is far from the case. If daytime naps are reduced the child is too tired to settle properly at night so night waking may become more frequent.
By the 6/7 month stage baby should be sleeping through the night for 10 hours and having two naps, the second of which should be completed by 3/3.30pm if the child is on a "wake at 7am bed at 7pm" schedule.
Working on improving daytime naps is easier on parents who are more awake and more patient during the day, and has a knock on effect of improving the child's night sleep, which is easier for parents too.
By 3 years of age one single 1 hour nap is enough and by 4 years most children no longer require naps. As daytime naps reduce night sleep should be slightly longer and eventually even out at 10-11.5 hours.
If you need help to resolve your child's sleep issues, Contact Dream-Angus.com
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